I walked outside my apartment building to go to the store. I walked by this pitch dark nook between my building and another. As I did, a deep voice came out of the nook and said “What’s up cutie?” I turned and seen two faceless men. I walked passed them as quick as I could. And that’s it. It might not seem that much to some, but it scared me. Why stay in the shadows at night and *cat call* to young females? I shouldn’t feel uncomfortable walking to a store that’s 3 minutes away. I shouldn’t feel uncomfortable to come back home. I shouldn’t feel uncomfortable being a female. And I shouldn’t feel uncomfortable PERIOD. As you you can see I wasn’t wearing anything *sexy* but that shouldn’t be a reason either. This isn’t the most uncomfortable I’ve been and sadly I will probably be uncomfortable tomorrow. Everyday (especially at night) I try to pick ill fitting clothes so men won’t yell or approach me. It’s ridiculous when a woman feels the need to dress in unflattering clothes to feel safe when she’s alone. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! I know I can’t change it but I can talk about it. Every time I get harassed, I will document it on here. Maybe more people will see what a problem this is.
You’re fine as fuck. Straight men—especially non-white straight men who aren’t shy and afraid of women—are going to try to talk to you. That isn’t going to change until you get old and lose your looks. Men are suppose to pursue women. If the woman in question doesn’t want to be bothered, then fine. But, it’s ridiculous and anti-straignt-male to expect men not to make the effort.
Making an effort is not a problem. The problem I have are with men who are disrespectful, like a man who calls a woman “silly bitch.” I’m assuming you’re a man. Two nights ago a guy followed me in his truck as I was walking. My disinterest was not enough, he felt the need to go up another street and keep talking to me there. When I passes his truck he felt the need to reverse to keep talking to me. Women should be able to walk around without getting harassed. There’s other more respectful ways to talk to women and stalking and/or following is not one of them. Maybe throw out a “hello, I’m ______ ” before you yell out what you think is a “compliment.”